Author: J R

3 Simple Style Tips for Tall Guys

Uncategorized 13th Sep 2019

Hey hey hey.

Are you a tall guy, who finds it frustrating when it comes to finding clothes that fit and look good on you?

Yeah me too. I’m 6f6 (1.98 meters) and have been since I was 16 years old. From a young age, I always found it awkward, because I would stand out and look very out of proportion. I was painfully insecure in my mid-teens and my worst nightmare was growing anymore.

It wasn’t until I started lifting weights at around age 16, that I started to feel better about myself. Girls started noticing me more. I felt more comfortable in my own skin. I had confidence.

However, one thing I haven’t really been able to crack until recently was the whole fashion thing. The reason being was that I just didn’t really know what clothes to wear to best suit my proportions, and to make me look as good as possible.

Therefore, I’m going to share with you 3 simple style tips for tall guys – the biggest breakthroughs that I had in my wardrobe that really elevated my fashion game.

1) Keep it simple

One of my favourite quotes ever is Leonardo da Vinci’s ‘simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.’

What makes this quote so beautiful, is the fact that often times, we look for more, when the answer is actually less. And this is amplified when it comes to fashion for tall guys.

The truth is, you’re already a big enough dude. You don’t need to be wearing some garish piece clothing – else you’ll just look like a giant carrot. Your height brings you the presence and the attention when you walk into a room, therefore, keep your clothing understated and simple. The more simple, yet clean-cut you can be, the slicker you will look.

Check out Calvin Harris, as he has it properly down – the simplicity vibes from him are clear. Calvin Harris is 6ft5 by the way.

Calvin Harris Tall Guy Fashion Advice

2. Get your clothes fitted.

 

When I was a kid, it was always a bit disappointing when I’d wait for that piece of clothing to come, and then when it was finally delivered, it wouldn’t fit properly.

It would either be good in the length, but would be way too wide for me. Or fit me in the waist, but way too short for me in length.

However, it wasn’t until recently when I started to get my clothes altered that I started feeling really good in my clothes – like they were made for me.

altered gosling

For just a small amount of money, you can get your clothes fitted for you. And trust me, it makes a big difference and you will have that confidence.

3. Think about the materials – not the brands.

This is not specifically for tall guys – this can be applied for everyone!

Often times, if you’re looking to get a good wardrobe in, we can be seduced by the name of the brand, or by the price tag. We assume that because something costs a lot of money, that it must be better. This is not exactly true.

Don’t get me wrong, there is a correlation – to a point – with price and quality. But after a certain point, I think it’s an ego trip. It’s just an opportunity to be braggadocious. “This bag cost me a grand” or “these slippers cost me this amount of money”.

The truth is, to look superfly, you should focus more on the materials rather than the brands. Having that sick authentic touch is going to look classier, than a name tag, truth be told.

Velour Ye

Boredom is Your Winning Advantage

Uncategorized 12th Sep 2019

After getting home from work, I realised that today, I had literally spent my whole day, messaging people about jobs on LinkedIn – to which only 15% of people will reply. The only problem is, I don’t know which 15% will reply!

I work in agency recruitment, helping startups and big companies in London find software developers. It’s a tough, competitive market, but can be lucrative if you’re a mixture of quick, and patient.

I must have sent up to 70 target inmails today – no mean feat. I only got a bite of the cherry on one of the last few messages I sent. But that’s all I needed – I found the maybe the perfect candidate for the role, with someone who has a very good chance of successfully placing.

The truth is, if I apply that patience to other areas of my life – the patience which is deployed on the boring stuff, which is necessary to get the fruits of your labour, then how successful can I be in the long run?

It doesn’t take intelligence to do that. It takes patience, persistence, and a positive attitude. There’s no technical skill – it is really a mindset.

Your advantage lies in the tedious, boring, but high leverage tasks, the tasks people feel like they are too above – that’s where your advantage is.

What I’m learning is, in a tough and competitive market, your commitment and attitude have to be 100% all-in. Anything less, and you will be swallowed up fucking whole.

A lot of it is really boring, but that’s where the value is – because a lot of people are unable to take the emotional pain and frustration of being a little bit bored.

You look around today, and you want to see where everyone is going. The easy buck, the easy win. The problem is, that shit is saturated and short-term. You want to run in the opposite direction.

No online course is going to save you. No get rich quick scheme is going to get you out of trouble. It’s as simple as that.

When you’re willing to do the long-term, grinding work, that will set you above the competition.

It’s like tracking your macros and workouts in the gym. Most people won’t because it’s hard. It’s simple but hard. That’s what a lot of success is. Simple – but hard at the same time.

So listen, if you have a task which is repetitive and boring, and you have resistance to doing it, then it’s probably the exact thing that is going to give you the advantage because everyone else will have that resistance too, but won’t do it.

 

 

 

Design Your Life Like a Piece of Art

Uncategorized 10th Sep 2019

Yo yo whatup!

Today, on this philosophical Tuesday, I wanted to talk about the importance of creating your life like a piece of art.

Life is dynamic and full of surprises. There are emotional highs and deep lows. However, the ultimate thing that we can choose is how we want to live, which is the most beautiful choice in the world.

If you live in a 1st world country and providing you have enough patience, discipline, creativity and you’re of at least average intellect, you can live an amazing life.

That’s mind-blowing. If we were living three hundred years ago, that wouldn’t be a true statement.

Therefore, take the first step in ensuring that you set the parameters for your success. You get to design your life. Most of our ancestors did not have that opportunity.

Do not take for granted the opportunities that have been bestowed upon us, because our ancestors would have killed for these opportunities.

Design your life in your mind. And then slowly go about sculpting it. Building it, brick by brick, until eventually, your life is there where you want it to be.

The 100 Day Workout and Carnivore Challenge

Uncategorized 26th Aug 2019

As of Monday 26th August 2018 to (at least) Tuesday 3rd December, I have set myself a goal of eating a Carnivore diet only, as well as working out 100 days in a row.

The reason I am doing this is to keep myself digitally accountable for my goals, and I want to see what kind of progress I can make.

As of today, I am 106kg (234 lbs). I am 6ft 6 inches (198cm). I want to not only increase my lifts but drop to 102kg in weight (lose 9lbs).

I also want to clear up my acne and see if eating a carnivore diet makes a difference to my skin.

So, let’s see what happens.

The Balance Between Knowledge and Action

Uncategorized 27th Jul 2019

To all the people who get stuck reading books but never actually accomplishing anything, you’re in trouble.

Stop reading books. Start slaying dragons. Commit to a goal and follow through on it.

All the knowledge you could ever want is already out there. A lot of people get into ‘self-development’, but in reality, all they do is read a load of books and mentally masturbate. However, these books don’t much translate into real-life success.

That’s because it’s fucking hard to actually make shit happen. To be truly amazing at something, you’re going to have to humble yourself to a process and go through a lot of pain. It’s painful to transform – it’s not comfortable. You have to exert yourself in many ways and you’re going to make a lot of mistakes before you get to the highest level.

Success should humble you because you realise the bullshit it takes to get to that level.

However, on the other side, there’s the element of knowledge that you need in order to do the right thing and get the result you intended. It’s both. Without one or the other, you will not be working optimally.

So, here’s something. If you’re all work but you’re not getting the results you want, go find mentors. Go read a book on the subject. Find solutions. And then go apply them and execute as hard as you can. That’s the true balance between knowledge and action.

Why Your Lack of Commitment is Killing You

Uncategorized 27th Jul 2019

Today, we are living in the single greatest time to be alive in the history of humanity. If you were born just 200 years ago, which is a blink really, you’d probably be working in the fields or down a cold mine. Or you’d live till 40… if you were lucky.

Now, life is abundant. Food, knowledge and technology is abundant. This is a crazy fucking time to be alive!

And yet I have found myself maybe not as far ahead as I would like, and the reason for that has been my lack of commitment previously. In this post, I’m going to tell you why your lack of commitment is killing you.

You see, go on to Instagram, and you’ll find the most successful people in the world, in different spheres, that will inspire you in different ways.

When you’re young you can decide to do anything, and have a good chance of achieving it (depending on how ambitious you are of course, as well as how gifted and hardworking you are). However, there comes a point where you have to sacrifice the idea of doing anything, and committing to one, two or three things MAXIMUM.

Because the truth is, beyond those few things, it’s too much for one to take on. It’s just too much of a challenge. There are not enough hours in the day. And if you spend three hours a day on an activity, and the other person spends six hours a day on an activity, assuming all hours are equal, the other person is going to destroy you in acquiring those skillsets, and also in the marketplace.

That’s why, honestly, I don’t have a hobby.

What I mean by that, is that I don’t spend time on activities that I’m not going to be absolutely fucking great at. Yes, I love football. But I’m not going to be a professional footballer at this point, am I? So I don’t play football at all, not even for a kickabout.

I only partake in activities in which I can be incredible.

You get to a certain age, maybe in your late teens, early twenties or mid-twenties, where you have to decide.

The word ‘decide’ derives from Latin which means to cut.

You literally have to cut off other possibilities and commit yourself to an area. Because if you don’t decide you’ll be left in the grey area. And the grey area is the land of the mediocre, where you’re not really achieving anything, but you half-assing shit enough to justify to yourself ‘yeah I’m alright.’

The grey zone area is the shit that I’m most afraid of. I’m fucking so scared of the grey zone because it is there where I will lose my dreams. It is there where I will waste years of my life in mediocrity. It is there where I am a shadow of the person that I want to become.

That’s why it’s so important to commit and decide on maybe one, two but maximum three areas of your life that you wish to dominate. Beyond that, you’re going to be too spread thin.

I think the biggest blessing that we have as human beings is that we get to choose our sacrifices. We don’t get to not make one. But we can decide which one to make, which gives meaning to our lives.

So, my friend, question yourself. What one or two or three areas would you like to succeed in? Write them down. And now go execute.

Josh

Be Willing to Die for Your Truth

Uncategorized 20th Jul 2019

This post is about the decision to be willing to die for your truth.

That sounds so poetic, right? “Die for your truth.”

But the fact is unless you were born into money, you have two choices: be a slave or own yourself.

What do I mean?

Well, you can get a job which is well paid which you fundamentally don’t enjoy, but the financial remuneration is higher, so you accept it and live a miserable life with material ’things’ to make you feel like your life is not a complete waste. This is, in my opinion, modern-day slavery.

Or you can go down the road less traveled, risk losing everything and doing something completely out there, but with the feeling that you owned yourself. You did what you loved, and you made your own decisions. You may or may not have the financial rewards for it, but at least it was an authentic path to you, and you built real self-esteem.

This is what I call dying for your truth.

In fact, you might be really successful going down the road less traveled and making shit tonnes of money anyway. But that’s not the point. The point is you have lived your life how you wanted to live it.

If you’re at that time in life where you’re thinking about what to do for a living – most likely in your early twenties – then you have a decision to make. The first is the slavery path, which you might be seduced into by the trappings of material success, but ultimately, you are still held ransom by someone else’s opinion of you. If your boss walks into the office and wants to fire you, then poof you’re gone.

The second is the path where you get to do and be what you want to, regardless of the material pay off.

You may even have to make a pact with yourself, where you accept and embrace that you’re living very risky, and it may not pay off. As long as you make the emotional commitment that you’re happy with yourself so long as you’re following your dreams, then you’ll be okay.

Make the decision, my friend.

-J.R